Back in high school, rumors
started as fast as a lightning storm to destroy any girl’s reputation. Often out of jealousy for some perceived
transgression, classmates concocted stories to create hurt for another
(During your lifetime, you face curving
roads, blind corners that you can’t see coming and things up ahead that you
can’t imagine. You will also meet friends, moments and predicaments you could
never have imagined. Keep pedaling, paddling or hiking toward your truest
self. The journey will reward you with an amazing life.)
As we grew older, most of us
learned through the years that everyone paddles his or her canoe as best they can
on this unique journey through life.
But along the way, in most
communities around the world, people talk about other people. They make
judgments. They hold verdicts. They
render conclusions based on their perceptions.
Someone always gets
emotionally damaged by bitter reprisals, anger, gossip and other peoples’
It’s been said that, “Life
begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
I once knew a friend who
carried grudges against those who wronged him.
He piled them into a potato sack that he slung over his shoulder
everyday when he traveled to work. When I saw him for lunch one day, he carried
on with new additions to his “potato sack full of grudges.”
Finally, I said, “Jack, you carry
so many negative thoughts about folks who have done you wrong that you keep
piling complaints into that sack that you carry around on your back. The more you complain, the more you add to
the sack—I think it must be getting pretty heavy and pretty rotten. Have you ever thought of forgiving all those
who wronged you?”
“I just can’t,” Jack said.
“If you did,” I said, “it
would take a load off your mind and emotions.
Give it a try.”
“How do I do it?” he asked.
“People can be harsh, unfair,
perverse, dishonest and irrational,” I said.
“Just forgive them anyhow.
Forgive them unconditionally in own mind and heart. They don’t need to know it. You don’t have to tell them. Just know that you forgave them. In doing that, you forgive yourself. It’s really freeing.”
Jack seemed to “click” the
solution into his mind. From that day, he let go of his anger, bitterness,
frustrations and disappointments he experienced with people. One of the best things he did: Jack associated
with people who supported him. He fled “those” people who remained in his form
paradigm. He changed jobs.
The facts: if you grow into a successful person, others
may deride you. Forgive them anyhow.
It’s possible that if you
maintain honesty and speak your mind, others may call you names or betray
you. Forgive them anyhow.
You may build a business or
work hard to succeed, but someone undermines you. Forgive them anyhow and move toward your
dreams on your earned experiences.
If you show positive energy
and aliveness, others may be jealous and display their envy. Guess what?
Forgive them anyhow.
In my lifetime, I have picked
up a half-million pieces of trash from rivers, lakes and streams. Also, I
picked up trash in the oceans, along roads and in parks. People keep throwing it. As angry as it makes me, I forgive them anyhow.
Therefore, you may do things
in the world, but people don’t care and forget quickly. Do your good anyhow.
While the world disappoints,
frustrates and diminishes everyone along the journey, give the world your best
During and at the end of your
life, you discover that you define your journey, how you live it and how you
maintain yourself in the whirling tempest of living.
Shakespeare’s Polonius in
Hamlet said, “Neither a borrower or a lender be. For the loan oft loses both
itself and friend, and borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry. This above all, to thine own self be true,
and it must follow as the night the day, though canst be false to any man.”
Interesting because Polonius’
detractors spoke of him as overly officious, garrulous and impertinent.
Be yourself anyhow, because
in the end, it’s all between you and the Great Spirit that expresses through
all of us.