is a request and an opportunity for you to express yourself concerning your
father's death when you were a young man.
you lost your father to an early death when you were between the ages of 8 and
18, you and I have much in common. My father died instantly of a heart
attack when I was 17. He was 46. His death changed my life
radically from a happy kid, a kid who played sports with his dad, a kid who
loved his dad, a kid who enjoyed the love of his dad—to instantly "no
dad" ever again in my life. I remember that day when my father's
best friend came up to me in the parking lot to tell me the news.
He leaned into the car window, "Frosty, I don't know how to tell you
this, but your father died umpiring the Albany High School game
that point on, my life changed from normal to not normal. From
happy to vacant. From my dad being proud of me when I got a hit or scored
a basket to no dad to be proud of me anymore. Life and circumstances
ripped my father out of my life. It changed the way I thought, acted and
lived my life.
the years, I have wished I could talk to him as a man, bicycle with him one day
for a chat or sit by a campfire. Always something in the back of my mind.
Millions of other men have lost their fathers, too, at a young age.
They feel the same way you feel.
invited to write an essay of 3,000 to 5,000 words describing your feelings,
your pains, your triumphs or your sadness of losing your dad between the ages
of 8 and 18. That's when the most impact hit you because you were close
to him and he was around the house and your connection was deepest and most
profound. Write about that moment when you learned of his death.
Write about your shock. Write about how you felt and what it meant to you
then, and what it means now. Write about how it has affected you over the
years. Write your feelings. Write about how you coped. Write about
how you didn't cope. Write about what it did to your life path. Write whether
you liked him or not. Got along with him or not. Write about his good and
am going to write this book by weaving your story along with other men and
connect the dots. We intertwine our lives with the death of our fathers.
We share a common bond of pain, of anguish and the loss of the most
important man in our lives. Millions of men lost their fathers to an
early death. Your story will give them comfort, hope and ideas on how to
deal with their own pain.
it publishes, you will receive a copy of the book. You may leave your
name out of it for your own privacy or I will only use a first name only.
You can write this essay or I can interview you with a tape recorder to
get every detail of your story. You have three months or more if needed
to write your story. If you know of
other men who would like to share their story, please forward to them.
you for making this book possible: When Your Father Left Too Soon