The first of these appears next to a paragraph where Sandberg details the divergent cultural messages directed at boys versus girls. Girls are often, blatantly, encouraged to be “pretty,” Sandberg explains, while smarts and leadership are left to the boys.

“When a girl tries to lead, she is often labeled bossy,” she writes. “Boys are seldom bossy because a boy taking the role of a boss does not surprise or offend.” This small remark had me spinning. Not because I didn’t agree, but because, as someone who, like Sandberg, has been called bossy her whole life, I was shocked I hadn’t realized this before.