Simple: Avoid euphemisms like "the fallen" and expose the lies about what a great idea it was to start those wars and then to "surge" tens of thousands of more troops into those fools' errands.
First, let's be clear on at least this much: the 4,500 U.S. troops killed in Iraq – so far – and the 2,350 killed in Afghanistan – so far – did not "fall." They were wasted on no-win battlefields by politicians and generals – cheered on by neocon pundits and mainstream "journalists" – almost none of whom gave a rat's patootie about the real-life-and-death troops. They were throwaway soldiers.
And, as for the "successful surges," they were just P.R. devices to buy some "decent intervals" for the architects of these wars and their boosters to get space between themselves and the disastrous endings while pretending that those defeats were really "victories squandered" – all at the "acceptable" price of about 1,000 dead U.S. soldiers each and many times that in dead Iraqis and Afghans.