If you try to duke it out for too long resentment builds. Resentment will eventually turn to hate. At this point, when just sheer momentum is holding you together and nothing more, all you experience is pain.

It's not you, it's me.

This situation is as true for romantic relationships as it is for all others. But the most enduring relationship, one that conventional wisdom doesn't even allow us to question, is the political one that binds us to everyone else around us.

Except by great effort and expense, we don't typically get to choose our partners in a political relationship. We are born into it. There's no courtship, no taking into account of our personal preferences. It just is.

And like a romantic relationship gone sour, this forced betrothal to the hundreds of millions around us is the principal cause of society's problems. Unable to go our separate ways from people we don't like or who we don't agree with, resentment builds. And as we see particularly with the current election, that resentment eventually turns into hate.